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weekly dispatches by maude® on modern intimacy through the arts, culture, science, and relationships.

MODERN INTIMACY™
the sexuality test designed to disprove astrology.
History
the sexuality test designed to disprove astrology.

Fake psychics, astrology, and a universal sexual truth.

is lesbian bed death real?
Culture
is lesbian bed death real?

A cliché, from literature to Hollywood, examined. 

a history of queer printed erotica.
History
a history of queer printed erotica.

Mags and their digital descendants.

how to be comfortable with intimacy.
Relationships
how to be comfortable with intimacy.

Ways to feel at ease with emotional expression.

a brief history of lesbian pulp fiction.
History
a brief history of lesbian pulp fiction.

Sex sells.

what we can learn from polyamory.
Culture
what we can learn from polyamory.

Dos, don'ts, and opening things up.

coming out later in life.
Relationships
coming out later in life.

Advice for broaching the conversation.

How to use a warming lubricant.
sex education
How to use a warming lubricant.

Heating things up.

Can music give you an orgasm?
Science
Can music give you an orgasm?

How climactic can the right high note be?

What could pleasure-positive sex ed look like?
sex education
What could pleasure-positive sex ed look like?

Sex Education 2.0

A brief history of sex potions.
History
A brief history of sex potions.

Ancient aphrodisiacs, love potions, and the quest for a boost.

What is aftercare?
sex education
What is aftercare?

Before, during, and, especially, after. 

On ingrowns.
health
On ingrowns.

A quick guide to hair gone awry.

Intimate Grooming 101
health
Intimate Grooming 101

The basics, no matter your approach. 

why grooming.
Company
why grooming.

on making skin contact. 

The carpet matches the drapes: Intimate Grooming myths.
Culture
The carpet matches the drapes: Intimate Grooming myths.

Putting the "personal" in personal grooming. 

Is masturbating good for your immune system?
health
Is masturbating good for your immune system?

Introducing: “vitamin O”.

the lesser-known erogenous zones.
Science
the lesser-known erogenous zones.

From feet to ears: where are the erogenous zones?  

When Foreplay Is Better Than Sex.
sex education
When Foreplay Is Better Than Sex.

It’s all about the prologue.

Sex To Music.
Arts
Sex To Music.

How to build the ultimate mood-setting playlist.

the basics of edging.
sex education
the basics of edging.

The pleasure of delayed gratification.

Redefining the relationship.
dating
Redefining the relationship.

Does proximity equal closeness? 

How to date yourself.
dating
How to date yourself.

Flying solo can be luxurious.

Will Masturbation Help You Sleep At Night?
sex education
Will Masturbation Help You Sleep At Night?

Consider it part of a wind-down routine. 

Auditory turn ons.
Science
Auditory turn ons.

Listen closely.

what does average libido look like?
health
what does average libido look like?

Demystifying a “normal” sex drive.

How to regain trust after cheating.
Relationships
How to regain trust after cheating.

There is no timeline for healing.  Trust is one of the most fundamental building blocks that make up the foundation of a relationship. So when one person breaks that trust, you might begin to quest...

The Science of PDA.
Science
The Science of PDA.

What drives us to be on display?

what is a sex therapist?
Culture
what is a sex therapist?

Your sexual wellbeing is an essential part of wellness overall.

What is emotional unavailability?
Relationships
What is emotional unavailability?

Diving deep and opening up.