How to build the ultimate mood-setting playlist.
There is perhaps no enterprise more rogue than intercourse to the tune of music on shuffle. In rapid, chaotic succession, you’ll hear vintage Avril Lavigne, followed by Run DMC, then probably a cover of Elton John. Oh and, in addition to undoubtedly encountering a litany of songs that are decidedly unsexy in their own rite, the ramshackle transitions into new rhythms, genres, even volumes every 2 and a half minutes will certainly do very little to help you “lose yourself,” as they say (or as Eminem said in 2002 in a song you likely do not wish to hear during penetration).
That said, bedroom music is not an inherent faux pas. It just requires a bit of curation. When selected with intentionality, music can add another key layer to your sexual experience: It’s added sensory information. The way food, incense, or wax play can add a whole new dimension of stimulation, the evocative intensity of music can help exacerbate or intensify your intimacy. Moreover, the use of rhythm can help your body to settle into some of the more rhythmic aspects of intercourse, itself.
Plus, it’ll help drown out any odd, squelching bodily sounds. Both for you and your roommate.
But, when it comes to sensual soundtracks, how do you know where to start? Should your playlist span a certain length? Should you be looking for songs of a specific genre? Are you obligated to close out with “I Just Had Sex”? Well, fortunately, we’ve got some insight. When it comes to drafting up your coital musical accompaniment, these are some helpful (read: essential) reminders.
Consider your transitionsFew things’ll jolts you out of the moment quite so quickly as a uniquely jarring transition. So, while building out your playlist, be sure to choose songs that blend naturally into one another. This is not as complicated as it sounds. You’ll simply need to make sure you’re selecting music of similar genres. Then, check for startling or notably unique intro/outro moments (also, avoid any tracks with spoken monologues. The sudden interruption of a stranger’s voice will certainly not do you any favors in bed).
Utilize full albumsWhen it comes to transitions, the simplest way to ensure that your music will flow naturally is by leaning on full albums—most of which are uniquely designed to blend smoothly from one song to the next. Nonetheless, the playlist element here is key: Not only can you eliminate any strange reprise or title tracks if you so choose, but you can also upload several albums in a row so you need not “take 5” mid-penetration to select your next album when the first one ends.
Oh, and on that note, keep your playlist on a loop. It can’t hurt.