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how to have great phone sex.

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Long-distance relationships can be tricky for many reasons, not least of which being that it can be difficult to keep the sexual spark alive. And while the thought of it might make you cringe, phone sex is an excellent way to keep those home fires burning.

Of course, these days we have FaceTime and Skype as our digital wingmen, but it’s sometimes even more exciting to just use your imagination. Here’s our maudern guide to giving good aural.

It's all about anticipation.

Especially when it’s not a regular thing, it can be awkward to bring up the topic of phone sex out of the blue. Instead, give your partner a little hint that it might be on the cards via a flirty text telling them you can’t wait to hear their voice tonight or that you’ve been thinking about them all day. Or, since it’s much easier to say something via text, you could even get straight to the point and tell them that’s what you’re planning—that way you both have all afternoon to think about it.

Don't forget to set the mood.

Even though you can’t be with your partner physically, you can still set the mood to be a little more romantic. Dim the lights, ditch those sweatpants and put on something that makes you feel desirable (unless, of course, sweatpants actually do make you feel sexy), and light a candle for a little bit of ambiance.

You've got to get creative. 

The more detailed and vivid you are with your descriptions, the more you’ll stimulate your partner’s—and your own—imagination. To make it easier, ask leading questions, like how they want you to touch them, where they want you to put your tongue, etc. And since you won’t need to worry about the actual physical logistics, phone sex is the perfect opportunity to indulge your wildest fantasies, like, you know, getting it on Game of Thrones–style.

Play it like a game of tennis.

Just as sex IRL should be a reciprocal thing, make sure you take it in turns to do the talking. And like you would in any good conversation, try to respond affirmatively to what your partner is saying. The occasional sigh, mm-hmmm, moan, or heavy breathing will do—just remember that since they may not be able to see you, you’ll need to let them know what’s working.

 

 

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