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weekly dispatches by maude® on modern intimacy through the arts, culture, science, and relationships.

MODERN INTIMACY™
why music is an aphrodisiac.
Arts
why music is an aphrodisiac.

What’s that one song that gets you in the mood more than any other? Ever wondered why?

Sex To Music.
Arts
Sex To Music.

How to build the ultimate mood-setting playlist.

Can music give you an orgasm?
Science
Can music give you an orgasm?

How climactic can the right high note be?

Iconic Sex Anthems.
Culture
Iconic Sex Anthems.

From Etta James to Prince. You see, unlike with small talk or, say, dating app banter, music allows for a certain brash, unfiltered form of candor—especially concerning sex. And while social decoru...

when women’s private lives became public life.
History
when women’s private lives became public life.

Gloria Steinem spent more than five decades asking a deceptively simple question: who gets to decide what women do with their bodies? Her answer was radical then, and feels remarkably obvious now: ...

The largest erogenous zone.
Science
The largest erogenous zone.

  The brain and what happens when you are turned on.

The Science Behind Your Sex Playlist.
Arts
The Science Behind Your Sex Playlist.

Yes, there is an ideal BPM for getting it on.

how your personality impacts your sex life.
Science
how your personality impacts your sex life.

Being neurotic might be affecting your love life.

what your sex dreams actually mean.
Science
what your sex dreams actually mean.

Read this and then go back to bed.

the dos and don'ts of the bedroom.
Design
the dos and don'ts of the bedroom.

Making your space optimal for intimacy.

more sleep, better sex.
Science
more sleep, better sex.

Sometimes, we’re just too damn tired.

the evolution of the bed.
Culture
the evolution of the bed.

From ancient Egyptian frames to the modern platform bed, the place we sleep has always reflected how we live.

spicy tips for boring couples.
Relationships
spicy tips for boring couples.

How to bring a little novelty back into a relationship that has gotten too comfortable.

What fantasies do to the brain.
Science
What fantasies do to the brain.

The neurological effects of when you let your sexual imagination run wild.

A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM.
sex education
A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM.

  Defining what it means and knowing where to start. 

Auditory turn ons.
Science
Auditory turn ons.

Listen closely.

the science of smell.
Science
the science of smell.

How scent impacts who you are attracted to.

the original thirst traps.
History
the original thirst traps.

Long before Instagram, people were finding creative ways to make themselves look very, very desirable.

when love has a time limit.
Culture
when love has a time limit.

Will Gluck's latest film One Night Only is proof that stories about doomed lovers endure, even if their relationships don't.

why certain voices sound sexy.
Culture
why certain voices sound sexy.

From pitch to pacing, here’s why the right voice can turn an ordinary conversation into something much more interesting.

the sensual benefits of a cold shower.
Culture
the sensual benefits of a cold shower.

Cold showers are often associated with discipline or a quick wake-up call. But there's a growing movement that looks at them through a different lens—one that views a cold rinse as an intentional, ...

why are we having less sex?
Culture
why are we having less sex?

Sex is discussed more openly than ever, so why are we keeping our pants on?

a cozy history of showering with company.
History
a cozy history of showering with company.

Hygiene is important, being social is important — what could therefore be a better idea than showering with a pal?

Sex Diaries: An Exclusive Excerpt by Alyssa Shelasky
In Partnership with
Culture
Sex Diaries: An Exclusive Excerpt by Alyssa Shelasky

For decades, New York magazine's Sex Diaries have offered an intimate look into the private lives of strangers, revealing the many ways people navigate relationships, desire, and connection. Now, t...

rock hard art.
Culture
rock hard art.

The artist who immortalized rock stars’ penises.

are couples actually swinging?
Culture
are couples actually swinging?

From suburban key parties to modern relationship culture, the story behind America’s most misunderstood sexual subculture.

the golden age of personal ads.
History
the golden age of personal ads.

Long before algorithms matched us with potential partners and dating apps turned attraction into a scroll, people were placing tiny advertisements in newspapers hoping to find love, companionship, ...

history's most arousing artworks.
History
history's most arousing artworks.

A tour through 500 years of erotica in art.

the eroticism of interior design through the years.
Design
the eroticism of interior design through the years.

Desire has always had a floor plan. Interior design has always been about more than where the sofa goes. Every era has had its own idea of what makes a space feel sensual. Sometimes it was velvet d...

Mutual shaving as foreplay.
Relationships
Mutual shaving as foreplay.

Can shared grooming deepen sensual bonds?