Founders of peoplemap.co
First thought when you woke up?
Puno: I have to pee.
Daniel: Chug a bottle of water and open all the windows.
Perfect morning soundtrack?
"California" by Childish Gambino.
How long have you been together?
How did you two meet?
I was a senior in high school and Daniel was a freshman in college. My friend was his RA, and I went to go visit him in their dorm. I actually don't remember meeting him there, but he remembers meeting me, which is cool. Then, there was this one day where we did mushrooms and he was with us. I just remember thinking the whole time, "oh my god, this guy is so funny." He's not an introvert, but he's the kind of person where he says a lot of funny stuff—you just need to be really close to him in order to catch it. I kept talking to him, and it was really easy. It just went from there!
What still draws you to each other?
Our humor, for sure. He's really funny, and I like to think I'm really funny, and we are always laughing. We're always goofy with each other and talking about weird, hypothetical situations. If you sit with us for 10 minutes, you'll see that magic happen.
Why do you still want to have sex after all that time?
Well, I think he's really hot. I'm super physically attracted to him. When I see his shoulders and that chest of his ... I'm just really into him! I think he likes me for my humor ... eh, he probably thinks I'm hot too.
How do you stay intimate and connected?
We're very, very honest with each other. A lot of couples aren't—there's some secret between them, or they think there are some things the other person doesn't need to know. But for me, I've learned that it's so important to say everything that's on my mind, no matter what, and to ask every question and never make assumptions. Even though we've been together for 13 years, it's crazy because sometimes he'll say something super surprising and I just fall in love with him all over again.
How's working together?
Working together is really easy. Of course, there are times when we have to actually work and discuss things. It doesn't matter who you are—that's always going to be frustrating because there are so many unknowns. In general though, we've found that as long as we divide up our skill sets and just go, and there's a lot of trust, it's very easy. He's a programmer, I'm a designer, and we're both UX designers, so the hand-off is pretty seamless in that sense. The big thing for us is trust—trusting that everything's going to be okay and that we're doing the best we can.
When Daniel and I first came out of college, we were both unhappy with our respective jobs. We were really stressed out. When that happens, you just don't want to have sex or be romantic—you're in your own head. So, we've made it a super important part of our relationship that we're always trying to improve our lives so that we feel good about what we're doing. That definitely influences our romantic connection. If we're always trying to better ourselves personally, our romantic and creative connections come smoothly.
Has your definition of pleasure changed in the time you've been together?
Overall, we've become a lot more passionate about each other. Especially when we're having sex—it has a lot to do with self-confidence. What I said earlier, about consciously trying to improve so we're happy with where we're at in our lives, it manifests into your passion. It's almost like every time we have sex, it's even better.
Pajamas or naked?
Our #maudernpeople Q&A series explores the human side of love and sex.