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weekly dispatches by maude® on modern intimacy through the arts, culture, science, and relationships.

MODERN INTIMACY™
Condom Sales are on the Rise.
sex education
Condom Sales are on the Rise.

And this could mark a change for younger generations.

A Brief Lesson In Sexual Cosplay.
Culture
A Brief Lesson In Sexual Cosplay.

What people put on to get off.

The Science Behind Your Sex Playlist.
Arts
The Science Behind Your Sex Playlist.

Yes, there is an ideal BPM for getting it on.

What’s a sex retreat? 
Relationships
What’s a sex retreat? 

No, not Burning Man.

According To The Data, What Is The Sexiest Place On Earth?
Culture
According To The Data, What Is The Sexiest Place On Earth?

Tens of thousands were polled.

How Victorian Britain went BDSM Bonkers.
History
How Victorian Britain went BDSM Bonkers.

From brothels to the underground dominatrix scene.

Where Does "Horny" Come From?
Culture
Where Does "Horny" Come From?

The etymology of arousal.

Lifestyle Triggers That Might Be Impacting Your Libido.
health
Lifestyle Triggers That Might Be Impacting Your Libido.

From food to fitness.

more sleep, better sex.
Science
more sleep, better sex.

Sometimes, we’re just too damn tired.

the deconstructed orgasm.
sex education
the deconstructed orgasm.

What actually happens to our bodies during a sexual peak?

Sex After the Death of a Partner.
In Partnership with
Alma
Sex After the Death of a Partner.

Reconnecting with intimacy in the aftermath of loss.  

Communicating Sexual Boundaries in a Relationship.
In Partnership with
Alma
Communicating Sexual Boundaries in a Relationship.

Talking through intimacy with a therapist’s tips.

A Brief History Of Exchanging Flowers.
History
A Brief History Of Exchanging Flowers.

From “I love you” to “I’m sorry for your loss”.

How history turned the heart into an icon.
History
How history turned the heart into an icon.

Not your average pulmonary artery.

Is Lovebombing Real?
In Partnership with
Alma
Is Lovebombing Real?

A Therapist’s Guide to Navigating the Dating Pool.  

The Tragic Life of History’s Most Notorious Femme Fatale.
History
The Tragic Life of History’s Most Notorious Femme Fatale.

Was the world’s most famous courtesan a devious seductress or unwilling scapegoat? 

The Science Behind “Dirty Talk”.
Relationships
The Science Behind “Dirty Talk”.

Talk dirty to me.

The Psychology Behind Pet Names.
Relationships
The Psychology Behind Pet Names.

From “Darling” to “Daddy”.

The story of the 91-year-old dominatrix.
History
The story of the 91-year-old dominatrix.

Catherine Robbe-Grillet is in her tenth decade of life, lives in a beautiful French castle, and is fully committed to BDSM. The great science fiction author Robert Heinlein once wrote, “Every gener...

How to Communicate in an Open Relationship.
Alma
How to Communicate in an Open Relationship.

A therapist’s advice for exploring non-exclusivity.  

Intimacy and The Tarot Deck.
Culture
Intimacy and The Tarot Deck.

Tantric tarot readings, explained.

Why Sex Is Painful for Some Women.
health
Why Sex Is Painful for Some Women.

Pinning down the root cause is the first step to a solution.

craigslist missed connections.
History
craigslist missed connections.

How the OG online dating platform came to be—and why it continues on. 

Coping With a Fear of Intimacy.
In Partnership with
Alma
Coping With a Fear of Intimacy.

It’s a common experience, but it’s one you can work around.

How to Explore Intimacy While Staying Single.
In Partnership with
Alma
How to Explore Intimacy While Staying Single.

You don’t have to be in a long-term relationship to learn more about yourself. 

the art of sleeping in separate beds.
Relationships
the art of sleeping in separate beds.

Why compromise sleep if we don’t have to?

on being asexual.
sex education
on being asexual.

Contrary to what many people believe, asexuality isn't a choice or behavior.

How Masters & Johnson brought sex into the laboratory.
History
How Masters & Johnson brought sex into the laboratory.

The most famous sex researchers on merging the clinical and sensual.

How to Feel Secure in Your Relationships.
In Partnership with
Alma
How to Feel Secure in Your Relationships.

Stopping the anxiety spiral.

How Depression Affects Your Sex Life.
Alma
How Depression Affects Your Sex Life.

Navigating intimacy while prioritizing your mental health.