Sex drive can be a fickle thing. Sometimes it’s there, raring to go, while other times it’s difficult even to muster up an inkling of desire.
While most sex therapists identify the culprits of low sex drive as being performance anxiety and communication issues, a recent article from Psychology Today revealed that, in the United States, there’s something else getting in the way of us getting it on.
We’re just too damn tired.
Apparently, Americans have a significant sleep debt (around 30% of adults sleep six hours or fewer per night) and it’s affecting our sex lives. And while it’s true that there could be other factors contributing to low sex drive, there’s a strong chance that a good night’s sleep could help relight those internal fires.
So how do we achieve more peaceful slumber?
- Exercise more throughout the day, even if it’s just taking the stairs instead of the elevator.
- Take a hot shower or bath before you slide between the sheets.
- Get plenty of sunlight during the day, but keep your bedroom as dark as possible at night.
- Curb your screen time before bed—try reading a book or meditating instead.
- Keep your bedroom temperature chilly (around 65ºF).
- Diffuse some lavender oil.