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MODERN INTIMACY™
brief history of drag.
history
brief history of drag.

From early AD to prohibition and Pride.

the hanky code.
In Partnership with
History
the hanky code.

The origins of queer culture's not-so-secret language.

a case for going solo.
sex education
a case for going solo.

And, more importantly, how to do it well.

The Quest For The Mile Deep Club.
Culture
The Quest For The Mile Deep Club.

Are people making the earth move from within?

a guide to setting the mood, daily.
Relationships
a guide to setting the mood, daily.

On creating intimacy every day.

Movies That Changed The Way We Think About Sex.
Arts
Movies That Changed The Way We Think About Sex.

A peek at groundbreaking filmic fornication.

A Short History of Smut.
Culture
A Short History of Smut.

Leaving everything on the page. If you’ve watched Bridgerton, picked up a title from the romance section at the bookstore, or attended a viewing of Fifty Shades, you’ve encountered your fair share ...

How are sex scenes filmed?
Culture
How are sex scenes filmed?

Coordination, illusion, and the occasional prop.

Can a piece of media spur a sexual awakening?
Culture
Can a piece of media spur a sexual awakening?

   a sampling of some much-referenced pop culture sexual awakenings.

Dating Without Alcohol.
dating
Dating Without Alcohol.

A guide to the sober scene.

Holiday Texts From Your Exes, Explained.
dating
Holiday Texts From Your Exes, Explained.

Happy Holidays, have you texted your ex yet?

Hooking up in your parent's house.
dating
Hooking up in your parent's house.

Why the holidays can feel like high school all over again.

Is Gift-Giving A Turn On?
dating
Is Gift-Giving A Turn On?

Our most seasonal love language.

What fantasies do to the brain.
Science
What fantasies do to the brain.

The neurological effects of when you let your sexual imagination run wild.

a beginner’s guide to role play.
Relationships
a beginner’s guide to role play.

How to climax in character.

Yes, Dating App Usage Spikes During The Holidays.
dating
Yes, Dating App Usage Spikes During The Holidays.

Classic yuletide yearning 

holiday house rules.
Relationships
holiday house rules.

A little down-the-hall separation can make the heart grow fonder.

Is Speed-dating back?
dating
Is Speed-dating back?

The getting-to-know-you practice predates dating apps—but not by much.

It’s time to revisit cuffing season.
dating
It’s time to revisit cuffing season.

Is there actually a best time to meet your match?

the definitive guide to period sex.
sex education
the definitive guide to period sex.

All the fun, only some of the mess.

Everyday Habits for Better UTH.
health
Everyday Habits for Better UTH.

  Beyond merely urinating after sex.

Reigniting Intimacy After a Breakup.
In Partnership with
Alma
Reigniting Intimacy After a Breakup.

The psychology of break-up and rebound sex. When a relationship ends, a wave of emotions comes in its wake. There are complicated emotions—maybe a mix of sadness, anger, or even relief—as well as e...

The New Intimate Health Routine.
sex education
The New Intimate Health Routine.

Because a strong base is the start of feeling good, every day. Let’s be honest: “intimate health” sounds like something your doctor says when they’re about to hand you a pamphlet you’ll definitely ...

Yes, You Do Actually Have a Type—According to Science.
Science
Yes, You Do Actually Have a Type—According to Science.

That doesn’t have to be a bad thing, either.

Is Sex Good For Your Skin?
health
Is Sex Good For Your Skin?

Maybe they're born with it, maybe it’s orgasm. 

The best non-bedroom spots for sex.
Relationships
The best non-bedroom spots for sex.

For when pillow talk gets dull.

The power of ritual for building intimacy.
Relationships
The power of ritual for building intimacy.

transforming everyday rituals into moments of connection.

What does it mean to be a side?
sex education
What does it mean to be a side?

beyond the binary of top versus bottom. 

Intimacy and the babymoon.
Relationships
Intimacy and the babymoon.

Unpacking “the last hurrah.”

How do you act on a partner’s love language?
Relationships
How do you act on a partner’s love language?

‘Tis the giving season