Summer has a way of making everything feel new.
Maybe it’s the heat. Maybe it’s the hours that stretch late into the evening. Maybe it’s just the collective agreement that we’re all a little more spontaneous between June and August.
But you don’t need a new situationship to feel that rush. You can bring that same energy into a relationship you’ve been in for years.
What is fling energy, anyway?
It’s playful. It’s impulsive. It’s kissing in public or texting something flirty for no reason. It’s making out like you don’t know where things are going, even when you do. It’s light, fun, and a break from the usual.
Why it matters
Long-term relationships can get efficient. You’re managing schedules, doing chores, and making grocery lists. That doesn’t kill desire, but it doesn’t exactly fuel it either. Desire needs surprise. Novelty. A little unpredictability.
Summer makes that easier. You’re already staying out later, wearing less, drinking one more glass than usual. All you need to do is lean into it.
A few ways to start:
leave the house.
Go somewhere you haven’t been together. A weird bar. A movie in the park. Anything that shifts the usual.
touch more.
Not just sex. Hands on backs. Knees touching under the table. Brushing arms while walking.
get ready for each other.
Dress up like it’s the first date, even if it’s the fifth year.
try something new.
In bed or out of it. Even changing up the music can change the vibe.
shower together.
Not the rushed kind where someone’s in and out. The kind where you stay in too long and let the steam do half the work. Shared showers are underrated. They’re quiet, warm, and just close enough. maude’s wash makes it easy. It’s a body wash that doubles as a bubble bath and turns a regular routine into a shared moment.
The takeaway
You don’t need to chase something new. You just need to see what you already have in a new way. Call it novelty. Call it chemistry. Call it what it feels like in the middle of summer.
