In partnership with Splitsville, a film produced by Neon and Teatime Pictures.
When we talk about intimacy, we often default to monogamy as the assumed framework. But intimacy takes many forms, and for some, that means practicing ethical non-monogamy (ENM). Far from being fringe, ENM is increasingly common: research shows that 1 in 5 Americans have explored some form of consensual non-monogamy, and around 4–5% are currently in open relationships. Younger generations are even more open to the idea. Over a third of U.S. adults aged 18–29 say their ideal relationship wouldn’t be strictly monogamous.
As Splitsville explores, “we’re open” doesn’t just mean open relationships—it means open conversations. At its core, ENM isn’t about multiple partners; it’s about honesty, discovery, and building trust in ways that feel authentic. Here are a few ways to nurture intimacy within (and outside of) open relationships:
1. define your terms, together.
Every open relationship looks different. Some people explore sexually, others emotionally, and many somewhere in between. Clear boundaries and ongoing check-ins help create the safety that closeness depends on.
2. prioritize aftercare, no matter what.
Post-date or post-play, rituals of care matter. Whether it’s taking a shower together with wash or winding down with a mutual massage using oil, small acts of aftercare help partners reconnect emotionally and physically.
3. stay curious.
Intimacy thrives on curiosity. Ask questions you haven’t asked before, explore shared interests, or try something new together. Just as 62% of people who’ve tried open relationships say the experience was positive, staying curious helps sustain that sense of growth and discovery.
4. celebrate the small signals.
A check-in text, a reassuring glance, or a quiet night in with a candle burning can sometimes be just as intimate as sex. Products like burn are designed to create those atmospheres where connection can deepen, whether you’re with one partner or more.
At its heart, ENM asks us to be intentional—about communication, about rituals of care, and about redefining what intimacy looks like. As Splitsville reminds us, desire is not just about sex—it’s about the ongoing work of knowing and being known, openly and honestly.
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