ask maude: shower sex

02 17 19 — ask maude
Maude, how can I up my shower sex game? 
— Slippery When Wet, Idaho.


Dear Slippery,

I’m glad you asked that question because, as sexy as it sounds in theory, shower sex is often downright awkward. Not only can it be difficult to find the right position, but, contrary to what many people think, water isn’t actually a great lubricant—it washes away natural lubrication, so chafing can be an issue. And soap can cause serious irritation when it’s all up in there.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. Shower sex can be super fun—it’s just all in the execution.

First things first, I’ve got two words for you: silicone lube. When there’s water involved, you can’t just use any lube because, if it’s water-based, it will dissolve quickly (and stopping for constant reapplication is a serious mood killer). Silicone, on the other hand, is slicker and longer-lasting, so you can focus on more important things, which brings me to my next point: positions.

Space is usually pretty limited in a shower stall, so you’ve got to be smart about it. Unless you’re especially limber, stick to the basics like standing doggy-style, or, for penis-vagina sex, the wraparound (standing with one partner’s leg(s) wrapped around the other’s waist), or sitting with one partner straddling the other.

And I have one more piece of advice for you, Slippery—invest in a non-slip bath mat to keep your shower acrobatics as safe as possible.

Your partner in pleasure,