We know, self-care seems like the topic du jour—but that’s because it’s important. Especially in today’s society, and especially when it comes to sex.
So in the interest of making sure you're feeling good, here's our maudern guide to sex and self-care.
Be honest about what you're comfortable with.
Often we’re afraid of communicating our real desires because we’re worried about what people might think. But while expanding your horizons is great, partaking in something that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe can be harmful. So be honest and encourage your partner to do the same.
Explore your own body.
One of the best ways to get to know what does and doesn’t turn you on is to explore your own body and show it some love (a little vibration can help). Not only will it make it easier to communicate your desires to your partner—how you liked to be touched, for example—but focusing on pleasuring yourself can also be a great confidence booster.
Prioritize your own pleasure as well as your partner’s.
Of course, you want to make sure the other person is enjoying themselves, but like we’ve said before: Orgasm doesn’t need to be the end goal. Focusing too much on bringing someone else to climax can be stressful—so make sure you’re taking the time to enjoy yourself.
You're always entitled to contraception.
It should go without saying, but you shouldn’t have to convince someone to use a condom.
You’re allowed to change your mind.
Consent is your decision and yours alone. Maybe you thought you wanted to have sex and then you decided you didn’t—that’s completely your prerogative and something your partner(s) should respect. (Really, it should be as simple as making a cup of tea.)
