As a part of our maudern people series, we asked New York-based Susan Korn for insights on modern intimacy. She is the founder of her eponymous, colorful line Susan Alexandra and has collaborated with brands like Warby Parker, Urban Outfitters, and Studs.
With social distancing & quarantine, how has intimacy and human contact changed?
I'm having deeper and better conversations than I have in years. I feel more present and engaged with the people I'm talking to. I feel the time before quarantine was so unfair. We weren't being fair to ourselves or to the many people we were in contact with because we were so distracted and overloaded. And then there's online dating which I feel destroyed intimacy. People became commodities and their value diminished with every swipe left. I'm guilty of it too. I hope we can emerge and grasp the fragility and beauty of other people. I spiritually believe we are all connected and a reflection of each other-this harrowing experience is something we all have in common. Proof of this connection.
I think I'm lucky to have started my company with an emphasis on authenticity. I don't know how to not be true to myself. The designs I make are a touch selfish even! At first, I was stunned that other people found resonance with my work (it's so personal!) but over time I've come to the astounding and beautiful revelation that authenticity is something you feel in your bones. If your output comes from a genuine place, it is felt by others. I think that's my magic. The connection and intimacy I have with myself is energetically felt and seen by others.
Because I'm not physically with anyone, I am going to make a conscious effort to have more intimate conversations with the people in my life. To go to a deeper level (that's where the good stuff happens!)
How do you make time for intimacy?
This is hard! I'm constantly on the go and thinking about a million different things at once. I try to make it a rule that when I'm with people, I'm WITH them. My phone is away and I attempt to be fully in the moment. This doesn't always happen...Because I'm not physically with anyone, I am going to make a conscious effort to have more intimate conversations with the people in my life. To go to a deeper level (that's where the good stuff happens!)
What is your shared goal of the space (or spaces) you occupy?
My home has always been a sacred space and now, more than ever, I need to feel a sense of calm and safety. I am so affected by beauty and color. A struggle has been to hide all traces of work so that I can fully disconnect after the workday is over (haven't figure this one out). Everything that enters my house needs to amplify and support my home and the same goes for my future partner. This person needs to add more beauty and color.
What is a new activity you are planning to try?
A new activity is being gentle and present. Radical stuff here!
How will you keep busy?
I am SO busy. I have a zillion emails I am sending in an effort to keep the lights on for my business and manage a team remotely. I am also loving cleaning and organizing my apt and dabbling in many long-overdue creative projects.
What is a movie you will definitely watch?