02 13 19 — how-to, Relationships
No matter how much you enjoy being single, it can still be hard not to feel a little left out when it seems like everyone else is coupling up on Valentine’s Day. But think of it as the perfect opportunity to work on some self-love. Here’s how.
Take yourself on a date.
Think of an amazing date that you’d love to go on—maybe it’s to an obscure art exhibition, or an afternoon roller-skating, or a band you’re dying to see, or that new Ethiopian restaurant that you’ve been wanting to try. Of course it would be fun with another person, but why miss out just because you’re single? Take yourself on a date instead and enjoy the fact that you can plan your evening exactly the way you like it.
Engage in some self-care.
Though many of us don’t realize it, one of the keys to a successful relationship is when both people have a strong sense of self-love. And the best time to work on that? When you’re single. Self-care can mean different things to different people, but think of it as anything that makes you feel nourished, supported and joyful. It could be as simple as taking a long bath, treating yourself to a massage, taking the time to meditate or journal, or getting a good night’s sleep.
Enjoy some solo sex.
Fortunately, you don’t always need a partner to experience sexual pleasure. In fact, it can often be better when you’re flying solo because you know exactly how and where you like to be touched (and if you don’t, take this opportunity to explore your body so that you do).
Share the love in other ways.
While it might feel like you’re one of the only single people left, we can assure you that’s not the case. So for now, put your energy into sharing the non-romantic love. Invite some single friends over for dinner and revel in their stellar company. Or volunteer in a way that helps those who have much bigger challenges in life than just being single on Valentine’s Day—at a soup kitchen, a homeless shelter, or an animal rescue. After all, it's hard to feel more unconditionally loved than when you're staring into a puppy's eyes.