how to argue with your partner at Ikea.

12 27 19 — Relationships

It’s no secret that couples love to argue at Ikea. It’s almost a rite of passage in any relationship; the make-or-break moment when couples decide to either stay together or block each other on Instagram. Let’s face it, Ikea arguments are almost never about the Hemnes or the Ektorp. There’s usually another issue simmering on the back burner, so why not let it boil over in a model kitchen on a Saturday? This isn’t to say that you and your partner can’t argue at Ikea – or in public for that matter. It happens to every couple. In fact, it’s probably not a good sign if you don’t ever argue. The key, experts say, is to do it in a healthy, constructive way. 

This may sound obvious, but if you want to avoid an argument altogether, the best thing you can both do is to be well-fed and hydrated. Being hangry is a real thing. And going to Ikea is a marathon, not a sprint. Like many casinos, it’s a loud, windowless maze and you need to come prepared. Bring a water bottle and some snacks with protein. 

If you still argue after that, here are a few things to keep in mind: 

Do whatever you can not to escalate it. Walk around the store on your own for ten minutes to get some space and cool off. 

Come back together and give each other a chance to explain why you’re upset. And try not to interrupt. 

It makes sense that when you’re mad, you avoid your partner like the plague. But touch is crucial. Whether that means holding hands or hugging, making contact in a non-sexual way (remember, you’re in public) is always a good idea.  

Remember: the reason you’re going to Ikea together in the first place is because you share a home. And buying furniture together means they probably want you around for the long haul. Last piece of advice? Once you get all the furniture home, hire a Task Rabbit to assemble it ;) You can do this!